It's been 3 months since I heard the "pop" of the jaw and life changed for the worse, most likely for good.
I've been in way more then ever and sometimes it's fine and other times I get stir crazy, lonely, isolated. Luckily I have Joey but with working for Paint Nites now and his main job he's hardly ever home...and that's fine he's a hard working man and I appreciate him and am very lucky! But I'm home alone a lot which is great for my jaw pain but hard on the heart.
Trips grocery shopping or running errands are pretty much the only time I leave this house. Hardly anyone talks while running errands so it's easy :)
But last night we had a family dinner and I realized how badly it is to be out in a social environment and how much of a struggle it is...and all I wanted to do was be HOME. In my pjs under the heating blanket with my wine, dog and tv....where I'm happiest and the pain is minimal.
If you know me you know I'm chatty, I'm loud, I laugh A LOT, I make everyone laugh and I love being a goof. I'm outgoing and been told the life of the party. But for my first outing last night I struggled. And I realized how bad this jaw disease, TMJD, jaw disc dislocation, whatever you call it it really really sucks!! I wasn't at all myself. I was sad I couldn't join in some of the livily conversation or talk about me and the excitement/nervousness of Aruba coming up. I couldn't make them all laugh and sitting in the chair I was in pain and felt like I was 90:(
I get it, who cares if I have to wear a mouthguard every time I talk to people. No one cares right? We'll I care!! I have insecurities as does every girl and this big plastic thing in my mouth doesn't help. It's ruins my smile, the way I speak and makes me feel ridiculous. So I'd much rather be home living this way then out at all times. But that's not healthy.
Since this disease spreads to my arms, neck and back, it's hard to sit. And with the Degenerative Arthrirts in my jaw joint it always hurts and throbs. Anxiety and talking and stress bring the pain on so much worse.
So being home I'm more happy, comfortable and the pain isn't too bad.
Last night I realized this life I've been given right now is terrible. I can't be who I am. I can't laugh as loud. I can't talk as much. I can't bend over and kiss my dog. I can't sneeze or cough without holding my face. I can't lay on my face. I can't eat anything that's not super soft....ever again! I can't dance and jump up and down acting like the goof that I am. I have to be careful around people and hugging and kissing people just incase they hit my face. I can't have a few friends over because of the anxiety and pain that would set in. I can't be in a loud atmosphere. I can't sit too long I can't lay back too long. I can't sleep without meds. I CAN'T BE HAPPY!
I know I'm lucky and blessed with some things. I have an amazing family and one of the best most caring and selfless mothers in the whole world!! I have love and am in love after 8 years with Joey. He's my best friend and for some reason is willing to be with a "sick" person. I have my bulldog Bailey who's my life! I have a home. I have food. I have the best job that allows me to stay home. I have a car, clothes on my back and a yearly island vacation and I do have a lot of good I'm grateful for! That's what keeps me going!
I have some amazing friends who try and understand this all and reach out and just care and want to come visit.
And it takes time to get over the hurt but eventually you stop caring about the ones who don't reach out or care or understand. I don't have time for that! My health is way more important than selfishness! Sorry!! I was hurt for awhile by some, and now I choose to focus on me and my health and happiness! And if I end up with a handful of friends after all this then those are the handful of real, true friends I have! Some people just aren't worth it especially going through all this...
I would give anything, ANYTHING to have someone be able to get this jaw disc back in for good so I can have my life back!!! I don't know if this will ever happen. So I have to go on. I have to be strong and I have to say NO A LOT and I know friends and family and sometimes even my mom and BF don't understand that. I will push myself to attend big events in family and friends lives but there will be days I'm too pained to attend. I'm sorry!
And no I don't have a toothache, I have a Jaw that's painfully throbs like a broken bone(pain goes from a 6 to an 8) and a neck and back that ache and hurt everyday. I feel like a sick person and although I don't have a deadly disease (thank God) everyday I don't feel well and this could possible be for life :(
Hopefully we can have people over for a few yearly events since home is where I'm comfortable. But that comes with how I'm feeling. This is now my life. I will lose some things and will have to pick and choose where I can go. I will have to pick and choose what I can handle due to stress and anxiety. I will have to pick and choose if I can be ME or not. Being pushed to go out or hang out and attend stuff is very frustrating so I hope there's a better understanding as to why "Mandi can't come" or why "Mandi isn't here...again"!!
I don't know why this happened to me. Bad things happen to people all the time. I don't want this pain anymore and I'm sick of it but I guess God thinks I'm strong enough to handle it so all I can do is show him he's right....
Xxoo